Have you ever stopped to ask yourself the question, “What kind of friend am I?” If you are reading along in the One Year Bible, you know that we are reading the book of Job. Most of us think about suffering and remaining true to God when we think of the book of Job. However, Job also has a lot of lessons that we can glean from regarding how to be a good friend to others when trouble hits their lives. We often think of who we would talk to if trouble were to hit our own lives, but what about how we respond to people who call us friends?
Test what kind of friend you are?
One test to gauge what kind of friend you are is to look at how you respond to others when they share their deepest hurts, concerns and even things that they are confused about. Here are just a few quick questions to consider:
1. Am I judgmental or even insulting in the words I use?
2. Do I feel like I have to give them all of the answers?
3. Do I start my response with, “What you need to do is…”
4. Do I tell others about the person’s situation?
5. Do I come across as being above their situation?
How to be a good friend when trouble strikes others:
1. Listen more and talk less.
2. Express empathy.
3. Communicate truth and accountability with compassion.
4. Keep it to yourself.
5. Don’t be a “know-it-all.” Pray for God’s wisdom and comfort over the person.
These are just a few ways to be a good friend when trouble hits someone’s life.
What are your thoughts on how to be a good friend?